|Ramadan Parenting Challenge 2014|
In every society, good manner was considered to be compulsory. But if you look around you now, people are being praised for being ill-mannered and rude. It is considered as original and you are applauded for your individuality. This is so far from Islam.
A Muslim’s duty to people is to have good manners. Prophet Muhammad (s) said, “The best among you are the best in character (having good manners).” ('Abdullah bin 'Amr narrated in Bukhari 73:61) Islam places high priority on treating others well. There are numerous ahadeeth that instructs us to treat our parents, neighbours, elderly, young ones, with courtesy and to be considerate of others.
With so much bad influence around, you must be careful that your children don’t follow them. You must teach good manners. Children need to be taught such things as to wait their turn and not push in front of someone.
Good speech is part of good manners. Abu Darda reported that the Prophet (s) said, “Nothing will be heavier on the Day of Resurrection in the scale of the believer than good manners. Allah hates one who utters foul or coarse language.” (Tirmidhi)
Teach your children to speak politely not harshly as Luqman the Wise taught his son: And be moderate (or show no insolence) in your walking, and lower your voice. Verily, the harshest of all voices is the braying of the asses. (Qur’an 31:19) It seems that in today’s society, people think that to be heard they have to be loud.
Abu Huraira reported that the Prophet (s) was asked about the deed which will be foremost in causing a man to enter Jannah. He replied, “Fear of Allah and the good conduct.” Then he was asked about that thing which will admit a man to Hell the most and he (s) answered, “The tongue and the private part.” (Tirmidhi)
Challenge for today is to:
- Teach your children to be polite and considerate of others.
- Teach your children to lower their voices and speak politely.
Do these and continue for the remaining of Ramadan.